Not too long ago, I’ve been a little implied in a story that really touched my heart.
Since then, I’ve told myself that I needed to share it with you guys. So that’s what I’m doing this blogpost for.
A few weeks ago, a couple contacted me concerning their elopement, they wanted me to photograph it!
I’m not gonna share too many details, to keep them anonymous, but I can say that they wanted to do it outside the country, only the two of them and have a little party to celebrate when they’d come back.
I had a call with them, to talk details and have a bigger idea of what they wanted. I was already super happy and excited! During the call, I asked them if they had told their families yet, since I know telling people is often a bit stressful for people that want to elope. They told me that at that time, they had only told two people, but they reacted mostly well and they thought it would be the same with the rest of their family. So it wasn’t too much of a stress for them.
So we ended the call, and its only a few days later that I heard that part of their family did not react well at all when they told them.
A few members of their family got really upset about it, telling them it was not a way to get married and that they rejected their family by doing so. They got really unpleasant and it my couple started to feel bad and doubt their decision. They even thought about having a regular wedding, just to please their families.
When I heard about all of that, I felt helpless. I wanted to encourage my couple to do what THEY wanted to do, but I also tried to put myself in their position and I understood their doubts and how hard it was.
It’s never easy to make a decision that your family does not approve.
I thought about it a lot. And I came to understand that my way of not being helpless was by talking about it.
Talking about it, talking about it, talking about it.
To continue to share what an elopement is and why people can want to do it, so people can start to understand it.
Because I know it can be hard to understand new things. New things do not always make sense to everyone. And that’s totally normal.
We’re so used of seeing big weddings. It’s what we see in movies and everywhere since we’re young.
So the idea of getting married alone, do not make much sense for a lot of people.
And that’s normal.
That’s why I talk about it so much.
So it can start to make sense for everyone, even if its not necessary everyone that would get married that way.
We can understand things even if we would not do them that way our self.
I talk about it that much so that getting married alone can start to make sense for everyone.
To try to avoid that kind of unpleasant situation in the future.
I talk about it that much so that people understand that its not everyone that thinks of marriage the same way.
It’s not everyone that want a big wedding, but it doesn’t mean they don’t want to get married.
Eloping is not a way to isolate themselves or reject their family.
It’s not something negative.
It’s not a better way to get married, but it’s not a less good way either. It’s only a different way.
There’s a lot of reasons why a couple can want to elope.
It can be because they want to live a different experience.
It can be because for them, a marriage is the union of two people and not two families. So their wedding needs to be a reflection of their idea of a marriage. And they do so by having their ceremony only the two of them.
It can be for a lot of other reasons, but the important thing to remember is that eloping is a choice.
As much as the choice to get married in a church or outside.
As much as the choice of having 50 or 150 guests.
It’s not a better or less good choice.
It’s only the choice that reflects best the values of the couple and the way they see marriage.
Eloping is not something negative, its a choice.
So think about that if you have a sister, a cousin or a best friend that wants to elope, instead of being mad or sad at them. And if it’s still hard for you to understand, ask them why they want to get married that way. It’s often the best way to understand.
And also, tell yourself that if they make that decision, it’s because it’s the best way to get married for them. It’s the way that reflects best their values and their way of seeing marriage.
To end this, I want to tell you that my couple kept their original decision of eloping. They’re gonna do it outside of the country, only the two of them and they’re gonna have a celebration with their loved ones when they’ll come back.
They really loved my idea of sharing their little story, because they think that people that elopes do it for good reasons. They want to encourage other couples that could find themselves in the same situation to do what they want, even if it’s not easy.
And it’s my objective too! So if eloping is something you think about but you have doubts, reach out to me!!!
I want to help, support and plan everything with you guys!😊
And finally, if you think elopements are a good thing too, help me sharing this!
It helps me and also ALL the future couples that are gonna elope.
Violaine is an adventurous wedding and elopement photographer based in Montreal, Canada but she travels worldwide. She loves the intimate, authentic and raw moments that happen each second between two people in love. She believes in the craziness of every couples and that laugh is the best medicine. She’s not afraid of freezing in the cold or getting completely wet under rain, as long as her images reflects her clients personality.
“It’s all about YOUR story. Whoever you are, wherever you go.”