Why I would ELOPE if I ever get married

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Before getting in, you need to know…

WHAT IS AN ELOPEMENT?

The term elopement comes from a while ago, when couples suddenly decided to run away together to get married, away from their families.
But in the last years, eloping has become more and more common and the meaning of that term has come to some changes.
People now mostly choose elopement to get out of all the wedding stress and planification. It can go from a super small and sudden wedding in a backyard with only close family, to the couple leaving completely alone to get married on a cliff in Ireland or on top of a mountain.
It’s the perfect way to get married for the couples looking to live an adventure and have an intimate and nontraditional wedding.

*I need to tell you guys that despite everything I’m gonna say in this article, I’m not at all against traditional weddings. I actually LOVE THEM! I would not be a wedding photographer otherwise!😉 Traditional weddings and elopements are just so different and filled with so many different emotions. But they are all wonderful!
This article is only my way of thinking about my own wedding someday.*

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Now, why would I want to elope?

I’ve never been the kind of girl that DREAMED about getting married. My parents never got married. Actually my mother always said to me that she’d burst into laughter if she ever got to the “I do” part, so she never wanted to get there. I never doubted her to be honest ahah! Knowing her the way I do, I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what would happen!
So, I’m not at that point ahah. I would actually enjoy saying “Yes” if the moment came. But it’s not something that I absolutely want to happen in my life. It’s not something I need.
For me, it would only be a “plus” to my life.

But why would I choose to elope.

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For me, a marriage is between two people: The husband and the wife.
They are the Team, they are the one that make the decisions, together.
As much as I ADORE my whole family, they would not be a part of the Team.
So why should they be a part of the wedding?

Now I’m hearing you guys say: “But by joining you both together, you’re also joining your families together.”

Yes, but no.
And again, that’s MY way of seeing things.
Yes, we’re kinda joining our families, but how many times will we really ALL get together again? Once? Twice? Never?
Truth is, not often. So are we really joining them together?
I feel that years ago, marriage where actually used for that, to join families together. Well, it was one of the reasons why people got married. So they could become a bigger family and have more people to rely on. They really became one big family.
But it’s not like that anymore.
Marriage is not joining families together anymore, it only joins two people in love.

I totally agree to the fact that we should celebrate that union with both our families.
Yes! 100%! I’d want to celebrate it with mine and the family of my loved one!
But I just said it. We should celebrate that union with them. Not live it with them.

For me, marriage is private between two souls in love.
So the wedding should be too.


The wedding ceremony should be the reflection of what the marriage is gonna be.

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With that said, I would probably love to have my closest friend on my side as support. Because even in the greatest of marriage we sometimes need another shoulder to rely on. And my closest friend being there would be the absolute proof I could rely on them at any time.
But I’m sure I’d enjoy it as much if I was completely alone with my love (and an amazing photographer of course, duh.).

 

Other than that, I’m also a TERRIBLE planner.
Seriously, each time I have to plan something I just get overwhelmed, anxious and I get into a denial phase where I try my best to forget I have to plan something and do everything else instead of plan. Yup I’m that bad LOL!
I actually prefer to be spontaneous. I don’t really mind not knowing what’s coming. It scares me but feeds my soul at the same time. It reminds me that life is full of amazing surprises, surprises you had never thought of!
And things almost never happen the way we thought they would anyway, you know?! Why should we plan something if we have no idea if it’s gonna work out that way? Ugh. I do not have that time to lose ahah!!

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So, I would SO ENJOY not having to plan anything for my wedding. Only having to find our outfits, photographer, location for our elopement and letting everything else just fall into place. That just sounds so dreamy for me!!

And finally, my photographer heart cannot NOT think about the photos.
THE PHOTOS. THINK ABOUT THE PHOTOS.


Just imagine your fiancé/e and yourself on top of a mountain or a cliff.
All dressed up (with boots maybe though).
Smiling and saying to each other how excited you are to get to share your lives together.
All you can see around is nature; mountains, forests and/or the ocean.
And all you can hear is the sound of the wind, the singing of birds and the waves of the ocean.

Just picture that for a minute, it sounds amazing right?
Well with an elopement, you would not have to imagine it anymore, it would become real.
Only that is enough for me to choose to elope ahaha!!!


I know that many people are afraid of what their families and friends are gonna say if they eloped alone. But it should not stop you.
Your wedding day should be about you and your significant other, that’s it.
You should decide to do what makes YOU guys happy, no matter what is it.


And if you really want to do an elopement but are so afraid to tell your family, nothing stops you from inviting the ones that are closest to you and do a super small ceremony on top of the mountain!
Or even sending them a little card, explaining the reasons why you decided to elope and inviting them to a celebration when you’ll come back. You know, a dinner with speeches and photos of your elopement. That way they won’t feel left out and won’t feel like they missed everything. 😉

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If you read it all, I’d love to have your advice on all of this below!
Would you be up for an elopement or are you 100% traditional wedding?
Let me know in a comment! I cannot wait to read you! 😊

 

Violaine is an adventurous wedding and elopement photographer based in Montreal, Canada but she travels worldwide. She loves the intimate, authentic and raw moments that happen each second between two people in love. She believes in the craziness of every couples and that laugh is the best medicine. She’s not afraid of freezing in the cold or getting completely wet under rain, as long as her images reflects her clients personality.
“It’s all about YOUR story. Whoever you are, wherever you go.”

 

SECOND SHOOTER, YES OR NO?

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Is one photographer enough to cover my wedding?
Will he/she alone be able to capture everything?
Should I invest in a second shooter or it is not necessary?


You probably have these questions in mind when you’re thinking about the photography part of your wedding, right? You’re already spending SO MUCH money on that day and photography is a big part of it, so you want to know if you should invest even more.

I totally feel you. You’re right to ask yourself that.
So today I’m gonna help you make that decision by telling you how having a second shooter can be totally great, but not necessary. And also in which cases I highly recommend it, sometimes even obligates it. Yup yup. That happens sometimes!

 Before jumping in, you need to know that I always choose my second shooter myself to make sure their shooting style fits my style.
I also cull and edit their photos myself to keep constancy.
So you do not need to worry about that 😊

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Now, let’s start with the purpose of the second shooter:


He’s there to support the first shooter, obviously.
His job is to shoot the important moments with the first shooter but with different angles, and also to help cover when a few things are happening at the same times. ‘Cause no one can duplicate themselves ya know (if you can, you’ve GOT to show me how lol!).

That’s actually one of the main reasons why having a second shooter is GREAT.
While the first shooter follows the newlyweds really closely all day,
the second shooter can be part of the smaller moments where the couple cannot be but would still love to have pictures of.





I personally love to have a second shooter from the first look (when there’s one) until the entrance in the dinner hall.


Here’s why:


1. During the first look, it’s seriously such a big help.
First look usually goes REALLY fast, so I can focus on the emotions of the bride while my second shooter focus on the emotions of the groom.
Capturing both emotions is totally doable alone, but it gives a lot to think about.
It’s a lot easier to do it with two photographers, it gives time to think about the best angle shots instead of focusing on being certain to capture the emotions from both the bride and groom.

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2. Then, during the ceremony, once more I can focus on the bride while she comes down the aisle and my second shooter can focus on the groom.
It also gives the chance to have more photos of the guests enjoying the ceremony.
Mostly for nonreligious ceremonies, they are usually really short (around 20mins) so with only one shooter, it does not give much time to capture the guests reactions.
But a second shooter can take care of that!
You’ll also have a lot more angles of your ceremony with a second shooter!
While I mostly stay in the front to be close to everything that’s happening, my second shooter moves around a lot. He can take pictures from the balcony if the ceremony is in a church, or from way back to capture the landscape around if your ceremony is outside.

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3. During the cocktail hour, I always leave with the newlyweds for a few couple shots. We’re sometimes gone for a half hour and sometimes for the whole cocktail(If you’re wondering, I usually recommend to schedule 45mins or more for the couple photos, but sometimes it just cannot be that long and it’s okay.) . I leave my second shooter with the guests during that time so he can take lifestyle shots of them enjoying the cocktail, a shot of each groups so my clients can have photos of everyone that was there and also take all the details shots in the dinner hall before everyone enters!
Alone, even if we’re back before the cocktail ends, I might not have the time to photograph everyone. Mostly if you guys have a lot of guests.

 

 

And finally, here’s the reasons why I HIGHLY recommend to take a second shooter:



1. If you’re having a really big wedding, like 175+ guests.
Otherwise, there’s no way one photographer is gonna be able to capture everything that’s happening AND take a photo of every groups of guests. There again, if you do not mind having only a few pictures of your guests, you’re good to go with one shooter only.

2. If you have a lot of transportations between each locations.
Mostly if you are far for both your preparations.
If I have to travel more than 30mins between the preparation of the groom and the preparation of the bride, I’ll suggest to send my second shooter with the boys while I stay with the girls otherwise we lose a lot of photography time since transportation time is included in it.

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Of course, these are all my personal preferences and opinion.
Other photographers could have different thoughts and you should talk about it with yours, because none of us work the same way. If you’ve got a good photographer he’s gonna suggest what would be best for you guys.
But, with all of this in mind, a big part of that decision still comes from YOUR personal preference. I’m not writing this to make the choice for you at all, but only to guide you through everything there is to know so you can decide what is best for YOUR wedding.


And I really hope this is gonna help !


And share this article to all the brides-to-be you know!
:)

 

Violaine is an adventurous wedding and elopement photographer based in Montreal, Canada but she travels worldwide. She loves the intimate, authentic and raw moments that happen each second between two people in love. She believes in the craziness of every couples and that laugh is the best medicine. She’s not afraid of freezing in the cold or getting completely wet under rain, as long as her images reflects her clients personality.
“It’s all about YOUR story. Whoever you are, wherever you go.”

5 tips to find THE wedding photographer FOR YOU

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Photography is for most brides and grooms one of the most, if not THE MOST, important thing for their big day. NO DOUBT RIGHT?!
They spend SO MUCH time planning their wedding and so much money on everything, that they want to keep the most wonderful memories of it, for sure!!
And the way to do it, is to have THE best photographer. The one that is gonna capture their day in such a perfect way that they’ll feel every emotion when looking at the photos, even YEARS after.
I want everyone to feel that way when looking at their wedding photos, everyone SHOULD. That’s why I’m gonna share here a few tips to help you find THE photographer FOR YOU guys.
YUP. EVEN IF IT’S NOT ME. I DON’T CARE.
I Just want you guys to be happy 😊.

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1.      FIND THE PHOTOGRAPHY STYLE YOU WANT.
There is SO MANY photographers out there, with SO MANY different shooting and editing styles. The first step to find the photographer for you, is to identify the style you want:
Do you prefer a style classic, moody, lifestyle, journalistic, etc?
For that, you’ll need to do A LOT OF RESEARCH.
My advice here would be to start on Instagram. As a photographer myself, it is my FAAAAAAV platform to share my images.
Go through hashtags, locations close to you and when you find photographers you like, try to figure out why you like them and keep them in mind.

You need to be IN LOVE with your photographer style.
You need to love EVERYTHING about it.


Then, you should send inquiries to at least 3-5 photographers that you LOVE.

 

2.      SET YOUR BUDGET
It is totally normal to have a budget.
Either it’s $1.5k or $5k, you should know what’s the MAX amount that you can spend.
CAUTION THOUGH.
If you have a small budget, it could be best to take a great photographer for less hours than hiring a cheap one!
Think about it for a minute,

Would you rather have:
AMAZING PHOTOGRAPHS THAT WILL MAKE YOU CRY from the three most important hours of your wedding day(ceremony + time for couple and family photos)
OR
Okay images from all day ?

Remember that your guests will WITHOUT A DOUBT, take okay photos all day too. 😉




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3.      MAKE THEM EXCITED ABOUT YOUR BIG DAY

This is SO IMPORTANT!
I cannot tell you how many times I got inquiries where the couple only wrote me this :
-Hi, we’re getting married this date. What’s your rates?

-Um Hi. WHO ARE YOU?
THAT IS LEGIT WHAT HAPPENS IN MY HEAD WHEN READING THIS.

I want to know you guys.
What kind of couple are you? What kind of wedding are you gonna have? Where is it gonna be?
I want to know what you guys like about my work.
Why do you want ME as your photographer? What in my work attracted your eye?

Of course you should not tell me all of this in your first message. But tell me something.

Because between this kind of inquiries and another one for the same date where the couple tells me how wonderful their wedding is gonna be or how excited they would be to have me as their wedding photographer, the choice isn’t hard to make.
You should sell me your wedding AS MUCH as I should sell you my services.
YUP YUP YUP!!


4.      MEET WITH THEM
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT.
SERIOUSLY GUYS.
Even if your email exchanges are perfect and you guys are already having fun talking about your cats and favorite TV shows (mine’s Friends btw, what’s yours?).
You cannot know a person before meeting with them.
So, even if it is only for a cup or coffee, or AT LEAST by videochat, get to know your photographer before hiring them!!!
Be sure you guys get along and will become friends !

 

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5.      FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCT

This is, I think, THE MOST IMPORTANT tip I’m gonna give you.
When making your final choice, TRUST YOUR GUTS !!!
You should NOT feel any pressure from your photographer when hiring them.
If you do, RUN, RUN, RUN !!!
I’m telling you, professionals find it so important to have a great connection with their clients, and for that connection to happen, both parts should be excited to work together!!
I, more than once, turned down a bride if I felt we were not a good team. In those cases I always send them references of colleagues with styles similar to mine. I still want to be sure they get the photography style that they want, but if I do that, it’s because I know they’ll probably “click” more with someone else. We can not become friends with everyone and that’s normal.
When making your final choice, you should not have any doubts that this person is THE ONE photographer for you guys.
You should feel 100% SURE about your decision.

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TRUST YOUR GUTS !


And share this article to all the brides-to-be you know!
:)

Violaine is an adventurous wedding and elopement photographer based in Quebec, Canada but she travels worldwide. She loves the intimate, authentic and raw moments that happen each second between two people in love. She believes in the craziness of every couples and that laugh is the best medicine. She’s not afraid of freezing in the cold or getting completely wet under rain, as long as her images reflects her clients personality.
“It’s all about YOUR story. Whoever you are, wherever you go.”